You will make mistakes. You will fall down. Treat yourself gently.
Give yourself some love – take the time you need to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and begin again.
Do you offer other people better treatment than you are willing to give yourself? This, my friend, is truly tragic.
How can you be the best lover…of life or anything or anyone…that you can possibly be if you cannot give the person closest to you the chance to work through your mistakes?
Do not turn an opportunity for learning into a reason to suffer.
You know, it’s true…there will be times when we must hold ourselves accountable for doing dirt to another person. This, I believe, is unavoidable, because we cannot know everything there is to know. And we react from what we know at the time, not from some ideal of perfection to which we hold ourselves accountable.
The first step, in any recovery, is admitting our vulnerability, right?
Offering that, gently, to yourself, will not only allow you to recover and remediate what you can more easily, it will also open your eyes to a more compassionate world…one in which the “sins of the fathers and mothers” become part of the healing process…because we understand that everyone makes mistakes. Everyone falls down. Everyone acts from what they know at the time.
I would offer this gift, this secret to accountability: When you know better, simply and gently…do better.
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