As a peaceful warrior, I feel it is empowering to embrace my feelings of vulnerability and resistance – to ask the hard questions – and work through them – to find the gem of truth in the lump of coal.
Why? Because there isn’t a moment to waste! I wish to learn from every experience. For me, examining my thoughts allows me to consider reality, in this case, the reality of our global situation instead of resisting the thought that it shouldn’t be happening.
Why is the thought, COVID-19 shouldn’t be happening, untrue? Because it is happening. That is reality.
Master teacher Byron Katie has been showing us how to challenge our beliefs for decades. I found her work a couple of years ago and was amazed at the correlations between her process and the one I had devised to heal myself. As a result, I advocate that we Question Everything, and use a meditative process that I call contemplative writing. It has led me to a thoughtful consideration of what I believe to be true.
It’s true, all war belongs on paper…
The answers I receive are the result of Inspiration. They come from the most honorable, compassionate part of me that I can access at this point in time. I call this part, my Constant Traveler.
I believe we all have a Constant Traveler within.
Katie’s four questions blend perfectly with my own work. They have opened up another level of inquiry for me. I highly recommend them! They are elegant, simple, and effective. They spell Freedom.
Let’s begin with a common thought regarding this current pandemic:
What is the thought? COVID-19 will make me sick.
- Is it true? It has the potential to make me sick, most certainly, but I can’t know for sure that it will.
- Is it absolutely true? Beyond a shadow of a doubt, I cannot know that it will make me sick.
- Who am I when I believe that thought, COVID-19 will make me sick? I am deeply afraid: I feel an adrenaline rush. It feels like the alarm bells ringing all over my body. I feel restless…I cannot settle down – I feel I must search for reassurance or confirmation that my feelings are right. I feel the urge to reach out…to keep talking about my fear.
- Who would I be without the thought, COVID-19 will make me sick?
I would be okay.
I would be content.
I would sleep better – with more rest I could survey the situation with clear eyes and act with intention.
I would be happy at home.
I would be grateful for my blessings.
I would be free to be helpful in whatever way I can imagine.
I would be able to take clear, appropriate instructions and safeguard myself, my family, and my community.
I would be able to create an oasis of peace, a peaceful retreat at home.
Let’s consider this TURN AROUND for the thought – COVID-19 will make me sick. A turn around allows us to observe the issue from another perspective, in this case, its opposite:
COVID-19 won’t make me sick – This is also a possibility. It is always possible that I won’t be sick. However, it is always my responsibility to act in the service of others and keep my distance so I don’t make them sick.
Can I think of any reason to let this thought (COVID-19 will make me sick) go? Yes. It is making me suffer and ruining my precious day.
In order for me to be happy in this situation, what do I need to happen?
COVID-19 should go away.
As Katie says, thoughts are always of the past or the future.
Let’s question this idea – one thought at a time. Do our conclusions come from our reality? What we are experiencing now? Look around you. Feel your environment. The floor is supporting you. The walls are sheltering you. Feel your sit bones making contact with your sofa or chair…feel your feet making solid contact with the floor. You are warm. You are fed. Breathe…be here now. See your door. Remember it swings both ways. You can believe that it opens onto a world that is in chaos, or you can imagine your door as a portal that allows you access to safety and Sanctuary.
You can close the door. This is reality. Most of us are performing a vital service by staying home. If you have been designated as essential, or have to go out to get groceries, medication, or to take a walk, create a Sanctuary in your mind so that when you come home and close the door you are closing the door to crisis – crisis thoughts, words, and actions. Take that with you when you go.
ANOTHER TURN AROUND:
Disclaimer: Turning this thought around is simply an exercise in speculation. Remember that Katie teaches not all turnarounds work – just try them on for size and if they don’t fit, that’s fine.
COVID-19 shouldn’t go away.
This idea sucks. However, in this exercise, we may discover our power as a global community. What are some beneficial possibilities that can emerge from this chaos? What can we discover about ourselves? Our community? Our nation? Our world?
How can we survive and thrive? How can we become better on the other side of this – after we kick its ass?
We can examine and develop:
Our personal resilience – when the going gets tough, the tough get going; we can use this time to reinforce our ability to survive and thrive.
Our resourcefulness – find ways to connect, to network, to work from home, to pay our bills.
Our values – to discover what truly is valuable to you – Family, lifestyle, health, creativity, service, friendship, etc.
Our gratitude – express our appreciation for the workers who are on the front lines (medical and emergency staff, retail clerks, truckers, strong leaders); health & and wellbeing, family support, financial resources.
Our ability to be of service – how can we do it? Volunteer in some manner? Spread the love on the internet? Remember staying home is a vital act of community service.
More effective communication – person to person as well as nation to nation. We can learn to listen more, and really hear what the other person is saying. Hold the thought that the world will come together and overcome ideological divisions as we care and share and create a global protocol that will benefit humanity from this moment on.
Our power to embrace change – life is change. It could mean a new world. It could mean a new job. We have no way of knowing what is in store so why not focus on the beneficial changes? Go with the flow…
Feed the “net” our positive vibes – there is so much misery floating around on social media – we can change what our newsfeed shares right now. Your loving presence is needed more than ever!
Our understanding of human nature – realize that, as Katie teaches, if we believed that thought, we would act in that way too…everyone has a reason for believing what they believe. It is wise to question those thoughts by doing The Work on them.A deep understanding of human nature will reveal that the only person we have the power to change is ourselves.
The necessity of creating a personal Contingency Plan – an emergency fund – asap – financial advisors have recommended that we have enough money set aside to be able to weather a three month period of transition. Even if we cannot put that much aside, always pay yourself first. If we cannot create an emergency fund, research the government and community resources that will be available to you in the event of an emergency so you can weather the storm.
Begin, revitalize, or work directly with your creativity – Creativity is our birthright as human beings. We are worthy of this wonder simply by being born. It has the ability to help us weather the storms of life. Write, draw, sing, paint, cook, dance, garden, carve…create something colored beautiful to decorate your world. Keep in mind that Katie teaches that, all war belongs on paper. Writing is the most cathartic and revealing exercise you can do.
Protect your health – it is a vital resource. Boost your immunity by eating well, drinking water, exercising (Qigong, yoga, walking, cycling, and playing with your dog are wonderful ideas – check with your local health authority to ensure you are okay to leave your home during this time). Use this time to sharpen your focus on health and wellbeing.
Physical distancing is easy to say but difficult to do. Many people are feeling acute stress as this wears on. Our medical and emergency personnel, our retail and restaurant staff and truckers are getting tired…
Please join me in sending them our love…
I invite your thoughts on this subject.
Take care, my friends.