The Nature of Nature

Nobody, no matter how financially wealthy, intellectually gifted, or physically beautiful, wins every time.

Even if you don’t win the game every time, if you can show yourself that you’ve made progress, that you are better for this investment of time and energy, that’s a WIN.

You win some, you lose some. But if you learn from every experience…then, my friend, you WIN. Every time.

’tis the nature of nature.

Simple. Pure. YOU…

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STARGAZER

Give yourself some credit!

  • You are standing up for your dreams
  • You are putting in the effort
  • You are investing valuable time in learning and growing
  • You are applying what you’ve learned with as much excellence as you possibly can
  • You are satisfied with being awesome when most folks are satisfied with much less

Perhaps…just perhaps…you are a Stargazer?

Keep your eyes on the prize!

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My Furry Guru Series: The Power of The Pack

Benjamin B. aka The Gen-a-min

​​Unlike most of the critters that enhance our lives, dogs have been systematically engineered to live with humans.  Consider the huge amount of diversity and personality characteristics that are part of each unique breed – if you have a specific requirement, there often is a specific breed that was purposefully bred to meet that need.  

However, dogs, like their human companions, have specific psychological and physiological requirements that must be considered in order to live their best life.

From the moment a new puppy or a grown dog comes into your home he/she begins searching – searching for where they fit into your “pack.”

Dogs have a natural ability to hear what we can’t hear, to smell what we can’t smell, and also to read the energetic atmosphere of not only our home environment but also the specific vibe of each human with whom they interact.

It’s been scientifically proven that some dogs can smell cancer cells, or can predict bad weather, so it’s not much of a stretch (or new-agey) to acknowledge that dogs can read our energy.  

The lone wolf idea is a myth.  Wolves, as well as dogs, thrive when they are part of a pack. Dogs are genetically similar to wolves, and even though there are vast differences now between wolves and your 3lb Chihuahua, dogs have evolved over eons to fit into the human pack we call a family.  In order to do this as well as they do, their innate ability to “read the human room” energetically has only been enhanced through thousands of generations of breeding.

To translate this into human terms, dogs truly understand the why’s, the how’s, and the power of teamwork.  There’s a lot that humans can learn from our furry gurus.

From the moment we were born we begin to realize that we are separate beings – apart from our mom and then dad and then others.  For any of you who are parents or have been around very young babies, infants have specific ways that are designed to get their needs met. Their overwhelming innate directive is to survive and, to them, it depends entirely on their ability to read the emotional environment. Due to familial dysfunction, sometimes infants develop attachment issues.  

These attachment issues can remain with us for the rest of our lives. However, there is an alternative – create your own darn pack!

In human terms, we call it a team. A team can be anything from a friendship, a family alliance, or a professional collaboration.

A deep, fulfilling relationship with our intimate partner is one of the most profound experiences of teamwork we can ever experience. As with a lot of life’s wonders, the pleasure of this kind of relationship must be experienced to be truly understood.

I have a coaster that sits beside my computer that reads, “In a perfect world every dog would have a home and every home would have a dog.”

Perhaps you have strained relationships with your family. Maybe you feel you are a loner and have trouble making friends. Perhaps there is nobody at your workplace who seems to vibe as your tribe.

Regardless of whether you have fulfilling human relationships or not, if you have the space, the means, and the compassion…I suggest you consider adopting a dog. I say, “adopting” because dogs are not something you rescue, like a shoe from the river, at least not to me. Dogs become part of your family. Your pack.

Consider your relationship with your dog to be teamwork. Dogs bring such sweet, vibrant energy to your life. They challenge you and stretch you in ways that no human can. They invite you to be the best human you can possibly be at this point in time…and encourage you to expand into the fullness of yourself by their example.

They are always dogging. Their simple nature, so accepting of all things human, has a way of melting the most frozen of hearts.

Truly, at the deepest grassroots level you can possibly imagine, dogs show us who we are.

Are you prepared to learn, love, and lead your pack?

Skipper aka The Bestest Boy

ps: Adopting a dog is a wonderful thing to do. There are so many dogs that need great homes. However, give it serious thought before you do so. Adopting a dog can be a lifetime commitment – their lifetime depends on your choice. If you are unsure about what dog would be best for you, please consult with a professional dog trainer or a local obedience club.

The Riches of Words

If each day you set out to enrich the lives of others, are you not rich as well?

Riches aren’t about what you wouldn’t have if you give it away, it’s about what is yours to give because you have it in abundance.

Words can be tarnished and jagged, or they can be sparkling, soft…and kind.

Words can flow from your lips, sweeter than honey…or as bitter as any acid.

You will know by a person’s words what is in their heart and mind. If their spirit is full, they will speak from their fullness. The conversation will be rich with meaning and inspiration.

If their spirit is depleted and barren, they will, most often, speak with the sour energy of regret.

Make peace with your regret. Accept your sadness. Reconcile with your pain.

How? Stop telling the old story.

Tell the story of your there to here in terms that makes a Thriver smile.

What did I learn?

How am I better for this experience?

How much more compassionate, wise…elegant…am I now?

Share this story often and with absolute conviction…until you come to realize it carries as much truth as did the old one. However, with this version of the story, you will never tire of telling it, because it feels good.

It’s the flip side of the coin – the abundant currency of life.

Regret…or the triumph over regret…you share which side holds the most riches for you.

Your Why Power

Your Whys are your most powerful motivators, however, if you don’t take an opportunity to explore your thoughts about why you do the things you do the way you do them, you won’t understand them very well.

Essentially, you will be “in the dark” about what fuels your activities.  You won’t truly be clear and confident in what actually is the cause of your choices because they are at work influencing you below the surface – in your subconscious, or even your unconscious moments.

Results don’t lie.  You can trust them.

Ever think, “I have no clue why I did that…or, What the frig was I thinking?”

This indicates that powerful forces are at work just below the level of your conscious awareness.  They create mindless, habitual habits and impulsivity – those actions that, as a general rule, leave you regretful in the morning.

Here’s an interesting idea!  Use your regret as leverage!

Allow your regret to prompt you to explore this experience on a deeper level through the elegant filter of your Constant Traveler.

Don’t jump to conclusions about yourself. 

Be truly generous – giving yourself compassion, respect, and the benefit of your doubt.

There may be ample evidence that what you did in the heat of the moment was detrimental or damaging to a life designed to THRIVE. You may be receiving plenty of feedback indicating that what you did wasn’t well received…or, if you did it to yourself, you may be feeling physically ill, exhausted, or bad about yourself in general.

Use this feeling to begin a thoughtful inquiry into this experience.  It’s the perfect time to begin because the encounter is still fresh in your mind.

I suggest that you list all the components of the story as best you can – get it out on paper.  Write until you are satisfied that it’s complete.

Then physically walk away from it. Do something else, something beneficial or nurturing.  It will be there when you return.

Why Power drives willingness, the most powerful force in the Cosmos.

There is a Why embedded in this experience, a hidden driver that made your reaction seem appropriate, perhaps even logical, at the time.

At first, it is enough to understand and acknowledge that this regret doesn’t serve you now.  This sparks the mind shift toward change.  Patience is key.

At some point, once you’ve gained some distance from it, you will be able to acknowledge that change is required on your end – and that you are willing to begin exploring new options for when this challenge arises again.

It will arise again, in a painful manner, if you’ve not found a way to neutralize its negative aspects.  History will repeat itself because it’s all you know how to do.

Dig deeper…

Getting to the root of this situation will expose your Why – the motivator that drives you to react in that particular way.

This is where you allow your Constant Traveler to “drive the bus” and open your mind to speculate on why you did it that way

The 7-Layers Deep Exercise – selecting a statement and asking Why is this important? for each subsequent answer 7 times, has the potential to lead you to your primary Why for this situation.

You may discover it is a survival Why.  You could feel particularly vulnerable in this situation.

It could be a relationship Why.  You may have felt disrespected or that you are not being heard.

There are many Whys in your repertoire.  These are adaptation responses that have served you well as a kid and formed as the grey matter between your ears was forming.  It truly could be a child’s Why – a version that would serve you much better as an adult if it was revised, or totally released.

Your deepest Whys – from how you think to how you react in different situations have become mentally and physically ingrained in you…so much so that you truly believe they are you.

What if they are not?

What if they would work best if revised?

What if the understanding of your private Whys could give you the ability to change your life for the better?

This exploration, your willingness to say, Okay, I’ll do it…if just for today…is the way to understanding, the catalyst for change, and the means for achieving it.

Consider it “bringing your thoughts to life” by offering them thoughtful consideration.

Dignify yourself with an elegant response – the response that your Constant Traveler knows you deserve.

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There’s More…

There is a vast world that is beyond the comprehension of humanity.

The world is alive with the sounds of music we cannot hear. That doesn’t make our music any less beautiful. The world is vibrant with fantastic sights the human eye cannot see.  That does not make our sights any less spectacular.

Just as we cannot hear every sound frequency or see every light frequency we also have a finite capacity for understanding.  Even though we can expand our minds and our perceptions to meet the whole, we aren’t the whole.  We cannot grasp the whole scene, no matter how hard we try.

There is always more. More height. More width. More depth.

We filter the world through our common senses. You can be as clear a filter as you know how to be, but you are a filter nonetheless.  

We cannot grasp the unknown, but we can form an opinion about it, and it generally holds a certain amount of angst. The unknown is an elusive concept that scares us to the bone, because we understand, as humans, that within it we will cease to exist.  Our psychological and philosophical meanderings in this regard can truly freak us out.

What is the answer?  My answer may satisfy me.  It may satisfy you as well…for a time.  The answer that will truly satisfy you must be discovered by you, but I offer you mine, as cuisine for contemplation.

Expand to the height and width and depth of your capacity today. 

What are you willing to accept?  To embrace?  

It is enough to act with this connectivity in mind.  Like a flower, simply and elegantly display your Something Colored Beautiful best and release the rest.  

What you release is always acceptable.  Why?  Because there is always more where that came from.

There’s always more to learn, comprehend, appreciate, to be grateful for…but in this accumulation, we may find ourselves with a more limited capacity than necessary because of what we insist on keeping.  This accumulation becomes burdensome. 

The good news is that the more we expand, the more capacity we have to discard our burdens.

It’s often been said that we have an insatiable need for more.  As I envision it, this is the more that we are hard-wired to pursue…the most elegant of Quests…and it will always be found.

Stay alert. Stay agile. You will discover the nature of nature is…ABUNDANCE.

The Wellspring of Inspiration awaits you.  When you are willing to relinquish control of what you will receive and become satisfied with whatever arrives, you will be doubly satisfied.  The giving and receiving circle is complete.

Embrace your humanity. Without it, you cease to be.  

Game over.

What do you have to show me Today, my Teacher?

Thought for today:

I am evolving into the next best version of myself.  Every day and in every way I’m claiming sovereignty as I expand into the human I have the potential to become.

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The True Meaning of Blossoms

May I make a simple request?

Please sweep me off my feet with the beauty of your elegant mind. Bring me to my knees with your gentle attention. Melt my heart with your free-flowing compassion.

When you are swept up and away by a beautiful thought, my friend, you are beautiful…

Elegance is as elegance does.

If just for today, step into your beauty. Be The One who recognizes the true meaning of blossoms.

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My Furry Guru series: My Doggo, MySelf

Our animals are a reflection of who we are – our character, our capacity to love, our awareness of what they truly need…to be what a dog was designed to be – a human’s companion on life’s trail.  Our compliment.

Sometimes they may even save us.

It is a reflection of our ability to reach beyond our human needs and act with understanding and respect for our canine companion as a species very different than ourselves…to give them the freedom to be the best doggo that they can truly be.  It is our challenge to meet them where they are, not where our fantasies lead us to believe they should be.

When we anthropomorphize a dog, we are essentially disrespecting them.  When we dress them up in costumes, color their fur, and imagine meanings for the things they do that are beyond their capacity as a species, we disrespect them.  We are limiting their capacity to show up exactly as they are…to fully “dog.”

Essentially, we are limiting ourselves and revealing our lack of understanding of what a dog is capable of understanding.

Dogs don’t understand concepts like destiny and purpose.  They just need a job, to do what we have designed them to do.

This may be to protect you or your farm.

This may be to herd your cattle or sheep.

It may be to hunt for you, or with you.

It may be to retrieve or to be of service.

Or it may be to be your companion…that warm body snuggled up beside you, the sweet, happy little spirit that decorates your day.

Dogs need a job.

When you choose a particular breed, please do your research. It’s not enough to love the look of that dog or think it would be cool to own one of that breed. Understanding the needs of their breed is essential. If you do not, you are setting yourself up for problems.

If you choose to rescue, take your selection very seriously, especially if you are considering rescuing an older dog. It is vital to understand the basic needs of any dog, to rely on the assessment of the individuals who run the rescue service for clues into the dog’s temperament, and to give serious consideration as to your ability to care for an animal of this nature. For example, if the writeup on the dog says, No Cats, and you have cats, don’t adopt that dog thinking you can change his basic nature. If the writeup says the dog is High Energy (perhaps she has a lot of Border Collie in her), and you’d like to think you can handle it but you are not that active, don’t adopt that dog.

Be patient. The right dog will come along. There are so many dogs that need a good home.

It is up to you to care for them in a way that they understand as care.  To give them the freedom and structure that allows them to be the very best dog they can be.

This means feeding them well, in a way that keeps them lean and energetic.  Overfeeding is not love, as I see it, it’s abuse. It means keeping them as pain-free as possible through regular veterinary visits as well as providing them with the freedom to run and sniff and pee on things and enjoy the life of a fully actualized dog…not a human child with fur.

And as you do this a curious thing happens…you come closer to being a fully actualized human.  As you open the door to allow your dog to fully dog, you are learning what it means to fully human.

When we allow our canine companions to freedom to be the best they can be, that’s when we know freedom ourselves.

Skipper

When we give them what they need most, our presence…to accompany you, to live with you…not to be in a kennel or crate or tied in the yard for the majority of their lives…we are celebrating the most basic instinct of a dog – to be part of the pack.

To belong.

We all understand what it means to belong, right? We all dream of unconditional acceptance of who we are, exactly as we show up today.

This is a dream we can bring to life – we can allow our furry gurus to teach us what it means to belong. And in turn, they will lead us to ourselves.

When your dog looks at you, he sees his world.

Benjamin B.

What do you see?

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Git ‘ta Steppin’: The Powerful New 7-Layers Deep Exercise

What if every day you are getting absolutely, without a doubt, what you believe you deserve?

To begin, take an inventory of your gifts, talents, and abilities.

If you don’t know what they are, then what does your family think they are?  Or your friends?  Or your boss or co-workers?  Or your fellow volunteers?  What does your mentor or coach or guide or advisor say they are?

Master teacher Jiddu Krishnamurti, who died in 1986, taught me something in 2012, and even though I never met him, he changed the way I look at my life…he said, Life is relationship. 

Without a doubt, my life changed when I stepped out of my self-imposed prison and reached out to make connections.

This is all about you…it’s always about you…about making one-to-one connections.  If you take nothing else away from this, I hope you hear this part…this is the first space in which you must connect the dots.  Ask yourself, as we stepped through the layers above, What was the prevailing theme for me one of connection?  Or disconnection?

Where did you finally say, Aha!  That’s where I can begin!?

1.  If you don’t know your personal gifts, talents, and abilities, are you willing to find out?  This is your first step. 

The first, and most powerful step, is your willingness to go deeper.  There’s a part of you that’s designed for the deep, but don’t believe what I say.  You must be willing to go there and ask the questions that connect you to that part. 

It’s no coincidence that it’s the same part of you that’s designed to thrive.

2.  If you don’t know what your gifts, talents, and abilities are, ask a family member that you admire and trust.  There’s your next step.

3.  Don’t have family, or your family doesn’t talk about these things, what about the friend that you admire and trust?  There’s your next step.

4.  Don’t have friends or the kind of friends who discuss such things?  Then ask your boss.  What does she or he say?  Refer to a performance review or a team-building or personal development assessment tool. 

Your company doesn’t do that?  You can find these tools online. Or ask a co-worker, or an employee that you admire and trust.  What does that person say?  There’s your next step.

5.  Are you between jobs?  Having trouble launching your career or business venture?  Do you hate your job and the folks with whom you are forced to work?  Then ask a fellow volunteer, someone you trust and admire.  Ask that person, What are my gifts, talents, and abilities?  There’s your next step.

6.  Don’t volunteer?  Then ask your spiritual guide, guidance counselor, addictions or mental health counselor, or mentor, or coach or teacher.  There’s your next step.

7.  Don’t have at least one of these?  There’s your next step.

Following what you lack can lead you to your abundance.  Why?  Because you believe it can. 

You believe you deserve better and are willing to step onto the beach…preparing for the deepest dive you can achieve at this point in time.  

There’s a part of you that is designed for the deep. Deep thoughts and deep feelings. You don’t have to be a master diver in order to begin, but you must be willing to get your feet wet.

This means you must be willing to entertain the belief that you have the stuff required to Git ‘ta Steppin’…to make those connections. 

You see, in all the steps I’ve taken in my life I’ve come to know this for sure:

In order to see it to be it, you must first believe that it’s possible…for you.

If you don’t believe it, if you can’t name at least one gift, talent, or ability…something you are proud to declare as yours…then how could you possibly claim it?  

What is it that you believe you deserve? Abso-freakin-lootely? Without a doubt?

You must be willing to find out.  Willingness is the ultimate power move.

I’ll leave you with this challenge…the very same one I offer to myself every day that I wake up on this side of the grass…

When someone responds to your question…and, without a doubt, someone will… are you willing to you believe them?

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