My Friend…

Isn’t it time to step out of your comfort zone and embrace diversity? Age diversity, that is!

If the oldest person in your circle of friends is under 35, you need to get out more. If the youngest person in your circle of friends is 40+, you need to get out more.

Out of your comfort zone, that is!

We understand that others can show us to ourselves in ways that we may never see otherwise. Many times, what gets reflected back to us as a “generation” gap is rich with information…if we are courageous enough to embrace it.

We often think of ageism as younger folks judging older folks as being outdated and narrow-minded. However, the opposite is just as true…older folks are more comfortable in the role of guide, advisor, or instructor with respect to younger people because we have experienced more days waking up on this side of the grass. We expect respect due to our age and can become deeply disappointed when we don’t receive the respect we believe we deserve as a member of their parent’s (or grandparent’s) generation.

By assuming the role of guide, advisor, instructor…or parent…we are reducing the likelihood of establishing a true, mutually beneficial friendship.

We all know what happens when we assume something, right? As trite as it sounds, it surely does make an ass of u and me!

Older people need younger friends. I’m not talking about family members. I’m talking about a real, honest-to-goodness person with whom we develop a relationship in terms of friendship…a person of another generation who can provide you with an alternate perspective on the world precisely due to their age. A person you trust and admire who resonates with you and keeps you thinking youthful thoughts.

Younger people need older friends. I’m not talking about mentors or parental figures. I’m talking about a living, breathing, honest-to-goodness example of an alternate perspective on aging that resonates with you. A person you trust and admire who keeps offering you the benefit of their years simply by their vitality and enthusiasm for life.

Embrace this aspect of diversity. Circumvent ageism in every manner possible.

Your friendships…and lifestyle…will be enriched and expanded, and you will be so much better for it.

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Published by Paula D. Tozer

I am a writer, poet and singer/songwriter. I am a Toastmaster, motivational speaker, personal creativity coach, and workshop leader. My most sincere wish is to share my words with others, and that we both benefit from the exchange.

One thought on “My Friend…

  1. Reblogged this on The Ultimate Bag of Bones Manifesto and commented:

    Isn’t it interesting how friendships form? As I was writing my new novel, Enchanting Treve, I thought about how, young or old, we can connect to one another in a deep and meaningful way. The generation gap does not have to factor into the relationship – if a person is truly willing to connect. In the novel, Tessa (65) meets Hannah (19), and a true connection happens over a shared interest – their love of dogs. This post outlines the many reasons why it is important to have friends of ALL ages.


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