A Master Dreamcaster

The words you speak and share have the power to shape worlds.

Only speak of those things that you wish to preserve, or that you wish to continue.

The holiday season is enjoyable for some, but for others, it is a reminder of what they no longer enjoy. As I observed the posts that show up on my social media, I am once again reminded that mourning what is lost is best done in private. And in silence.

Stop speaking it to life. You are reinforcing and embedding that which you have lost and this has the power to make you sick.

As I shared in my previous post, there is a time for sadness. When your loss is fresh you must indulge your pain. Tears are nature’s cleansing medium – designed to release pain as it leaks out through your eyes. Consider your ability to cry a power tool in your toolbox.

However, there will come a time when the scales of grief and healing naturally start to tip closer to balance. We begin to feel the stirrings of emotions associated with returning to the land of the living.

This can be a time of great turmoil because we often feel guilty for feeling better, and shame for forgetting…not honoring…their death. It is during these times, generally at birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays, when we feel compelled to cry out and express our pain. To refresh it, yes, but also to remind those who may have forgotten our suffering and moved on that we still are keeping the funeral pyre burning.

Create your own healing ritual by singing healing songs instead of cryin’ tunes. Follow nurturing practices at all times, and in all things.

Speak to that which you wish to preserve. Celebrate life instead of mourning death. Speak to your healing so it will recognize your welcome and come to you.

What do you believe will happen if you share a dream of death? Of mourning? Of sadness?

What part of you feels compelled to cast your sadness into a public forum? To what end?

There is an option. Share a gift that your loved one has given you in honor of their life.

We change our brain through ceremony. You can activate change today. If you feel the urge to share how much you miss a beloved, remember a gift they gave you and make that the memory you share.

Let this urge be a reminder of your love, instead of your grief.

The graphic I shared above is one way I honor my mother, Mary Tozer. She was an extroverted woman who loved meeting new people. She truly never met a stranger. Many times I observed as she approached someone, struck up a conversation, and soon was conversing like they were an old friend. To her, a stranger was a friend that she had not yet met.

She was a master Dreamcaster. Mom never cried over spilled milk.

I honor her memory by following her lead.

Please share your love. Doesn’t the world have enough pain already?

If you find value in this post, please share it.

Check out An Elegant Mind’s Handbook for more deep-dive ideas. And here’s
a gift for you…if you purchase the book, I invite you to contact me on my
website https://www.pauladtozerauthor.com and let me know that you have
purchased it. I will send you SKY MIND, a free guided meditation that I created
to get you in the Contemplative Writing mindset!


Published by Paula D. Tozer

I am a writer, poet and singer/songwriter. I am a Toastmaster, motivational speaker, personal creativity coach, and workshop leader. My most sincere wish is to share my words with others, and that we both benefit from the exchange.

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