I play favorites.  I have a favorite son and a favorite daughter.  At every opportunity I tell my children just that.  On birthday cards, on FB Messenger, by text or email, on every occasion, I let them know they are my favorite son, or my favorite daughter. 

My kids are quick to point out, with a wry smile, Mom, I’m you only son.  I’m your only daughter.

So what?  I say every time.  You’re still my favorite!

Each of my two kids is my favorite.  Each day that I wake up on this side of the grass is my favorite.  And TODAY is my favorite day, of this, my favorite life!

And you, you are my favorite reader of all time!

This is my favorite post of all time too…

Wow! This is so much fun!

Each One Best is my favorite game. 

I learned about each one best in the best possible way – through the many sweet, bright spirits who have graced my life in the forms of my pets.

As we are well aware, if a critter lover lives long enough, we will have had many critters to love.  With 10-15 years being the average lifespan of dogs and cats, we can reasonably assume that when we get a puppy or kitten, we will outlive them. 

Unless we get a parrot…with the average age of those critters being 50 years, and with some cases reaching 70, 80, and even 100 years of age, parrots can outlive most folks.  A word of caution here…if you choose to get a pet parrot, it is also wise, as a general rule, to not teach that parrot to swear! 

Think about it!  You will have that potty-mouthed feather-face cursing like a sailor for what could be the rest of your days! Search online for Eric the Legend as a hilarious (and strong language-rated) illustration of my point!

For most of us, circumstances have a way of taking our pets away before the time of their ideal lifespan.  It is what it is.  Death is as much a part of life as life is of death. 

It doesn’t serve anyone’s favorite life to dwell on death…anymore than the back cover of a book doesn’t serve the same purpose as its contents.

Each One Best is a skill anyone can master!

Your favorite child, book, friend, critter, LIFE…becomes your favorite because you’ve trained yourself to love each one best.

My love isn’t perfect.  That’s not the point of loving.  I have some sad stories to tell about those that I’ve loved and lost, but I wouldn’t change one of those memories for anything.  The sweet critters in my life taught me consistently and well.  Every dog – Boo (yes, I had a dog named Boo and he was named after the song, Me and You and A Dog Named Boo) Treve, Sheba, Khan, Daisy Mae, Sarie Berry, and Ruby Slippers…my cats Aristotle, Flashcat, Whiskey, Sweetie, Tigger Thomas, Smokey Joseph, and Bassie…came into my life at the absolutely perfect time…and I absolutely loved each one the very best I knew how.  They were, and still are, my Furry Gurus.

I often tell people who are mourning the loss of a beloved dog or cat to not give up on love because it hurts to lose them…there is another dog or cat who may have never known love who is waiting for you to find them.  Take the time you need to heal, but please don’t give up. There is always another critter for you to love the best.

Maybe, my friends, that is their purpose?

As the song goes, If you can’t love the one you want, love the one you’re with.  How about making everything…or everyone you’re with…all those you encounter in each of your favorite hours of your favorite day of your favorite life…your absolute favorite?  Even if it’s only for a few years, or even a few minutes?

Would you see them differently?

Would you spend your time with them differently?

Would you look wider, listen better, care deeper…if you never met a stranger?

If the next person on your agenda was a friend you haven’t yet met…how would that change the way you approach your meeting them?

Who will have the privilege of receiving your BEST today?

That’s how your only son will always be your favorite son.  And your only daughter will always be your favorite daughter.  And if you have two favorite daughters or two favorite sons you are fortunate indeed…to have so many favorite people in your life! 

It is your privilege to look, listen, and care for each one best.  Each will get the very best of you because each will be the one you love best.

Here’s a thought…if you don’t have physical children you still have a child to love…the child inside, your eldest (and perhaps only) child.  Your child, and every child, young or old, that you meet, will always benefit from your best love. 

When every mother’s and father’s child, including the child inside you, gets loved the best, your favorite life becomes as natural as breathing.


Published by Paula D. Tozer

I am a writer, poet and singer/songwriter. I am a Toastmaster, motivational speaker, personal creativity coach, and workshop leader. My most sincere wish is to share my words with others, and that we both benefit from the exchange.

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