A Suggestion…

Self-hypnosis is a thing.  It can be a HUGE THING.

Consider how we motivate ourselves with suggestions and directives in the form of self-talk. 

What are you commanding yourself to do?  Or not to do? 

Have you set yourself up so its hard to feel good about yourself?  You can answer this question easily – Results don’t lie. 

How does what you say to yourself make you feel? Does your self-talk make you want to bloom or cause you to want to fold in on yourself? 

Master your self-talk, master yourself…

We all know what self-defeating talk sounds like: 

I’m so…. (stupid, lazy, sad)

I’m too…(old, silly, dramatic, scared)

I can’t…(do that, learn)

I shoulda done it when I had the chance; I coulda done it but I was too scared; I woulda done it but I didn’t have enough time, money, education, talent, support…

We are very good at convincing ourselves that we’ve tried everything. 

Yes, I hear you.  I’m not devaluing your efforts. You’ve tried very hard.  You’ve given it a lot of thought, time, and effort.  Maybe you’ve given all you have to give at this time. 

That’s okay! Many times we want to give up because we’re damn tired. Perhaps it’s time to rest, recover, and reevaluate?

This is the purpose of Contemplative Writing.

Activate your Constant Traveler (the honorable, compassionate, and elegant part of you) through this practice.  Make your self-talk your ally.

Use your Contemplative Writing practice to craft your thoughts with elegance.  Form your most excellent, most elegant vision for your life.  Before you can see it to be it you must believe it is possible…for you.

Speak to your possibilities.  Speak to your mindset.  Speak to your perspective.  Take steps to verbally craft your plan…in written form.

You have the power to change your self-talk to use words like privilege, honor, celebrate, choice, service, care.

This is how you create a personal Standard of Excellence (SOE).  Sticking to a personal SOE is how you build cred with yourself.

When you are thinking with excellence in mind, how will you feel?  Why would you want to feel that way? Write it out.

When you are writing with excellence in mind, what will you write?  Why would you want to write that way? Write it out.

When you are acting with excellence in mind, how will you act?  Why would you want to act that way? Write it out.

Be aware that this may open the door for self-bashing.  When you consider what you would like to be there is a tendency to consider what you are not.  Gently resist this hex, by bringing your attention back to focusing on excellence.

Sometimes excellence looks like, I won’t do that again, and sticking to it.  It can also look like I survived and learned from the experience. 

Most of us know what we don’t want way more than we know what we want.  Use it! Use this habit of declaring what you don’t want to root out self-defeating behavior. 

I don’t want that.  Good. Let it go.

I don’t like that.  Good. Release it.

When you miss the mark (as we all do) don’t ignore it or let yourself off with it.   Own it.  Reset & begin again. Yes, excellence looks like starting again.

Let it be okay to not know all the answers, but keep your eyes open for clues.  Learn to love what you don’t know.  Keep in mind that You don’t know what you don’t know until you know it. When you know better you do better!

Good, Better, BEST!

Contemplative Writing works to get to the root of the problem. How did I realize that I was the problem? I was the only one hurting over it.

It was through Contemplative Writing that I discovered the most important reason to tune into the Something Colored Beautiful moments of life!  When I’m caught in a beautiful thought, I feel beautiful. 

Let beautiful thoughts become your personal suggestions.

To accomplish this I created a simple practice I call 1% Better. This means taking small steps that lead you towards your best each day, because small steps done with consistency over time lead to significant results. 1% Better is not only the small things you do, but also the small things you stop doing that make room for better things.

Contemplative Writing allows you to create beneficial rules and guides so you don’t go off the rails, get into trouble, and fall back into old habits.

Developing your personal SOE begins like this: 

People like me do and say things like __________.  Craft your ultimate, world-class response. 

How does your response reflect your integrity?  Your personal creative genius? 

Words support the actions that progress toward a desired goal.   Is your self-talk taking you where you want to go?

Words can strike or they can caress. If you don’t feel good about saying it, choose to say something else. 

How long will it take to integrate a beneficial habit into your life?  Research indicates that it may be more like 66 days than the prevailing idea of 21 days.  Keep in mind how long you’ve been living the old habit…66 days is a small part of the big picture, right?

What hypnotic suggestions, directives, and commands did you give yourself this morning? 

If you find value in this post, please share it.

Check out An Elegant Mind’s Handbook for more deep-dive ideas. And here’s
a gift for you…if you purchase the book, I invite you to contact me on my
website https://www.pauladtozerauthor.com and let me know that you have
purchased it. I will send you SKY MIND, a free guided meditation that I created
to get you in the Contemplative Writing mindset!


Published by Paula D. Tozer

I am a writer, poet and singer/songwriter. I am a Toastmaster, motivational speaker, personal creativity coach, and workshop leader. My most sincere wish is to share my words with others, and that we both benefit from the exchange.

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