In a recent interview, modern thought leader and author Brendon Burchard described a meeting with Oprah. Before anything else was discussed, she asked, What is the intention of this meeting?
As Brendon explains it, Oprah is always seeking clarity – clarity of purpose and of time expenditures. Well aware that there are only 24 hrs (or 1440 minutes) available in each day, she demonstrates that she values her precious time by seeking clarity in every interaction.
As Brendon teaches, every high performer knows that if they take care of the pennies, the dollars will look after themselves. By clarifying their Whys, they can clearly map their Hows.
Why then do so many of us get bogged down? Why is the “devil in the details” more apt for some of us than it is for these high performers? Why does attention to detail bog us down instead of freeing us to do our best work?
Perhaps we are asking the wrong questions? Or perhaps we are afraid to ask any questions at all?
Question Everything – this can be an open-minded, freeing way to live, or it can also be the means to close us off from the very things we are seeking. The nature of your questions matter more than you may be aware…
Why am I so dumb?
Why can’t I stop eating junk?
Why can’t I be like my brother?
Why are people so hateful to one another?
Why does everything have to happen to me?
Why can’t I overcome this?
Is there anyone out there who loves me?
What if I never feel like I’m enough???
Is this line of questioning coming from a place of abundant curiosity, or lack of hope? Haven’t you already decided before you asked the question?
And what happens when we are so afraid to speak up or so afraid of not being able to handle the answers, that we never ask the questions?
Truly, there is a devil in the details here, and it is fear. Question the source of the questions.
Another reason we are afraid to seek clarity is that in order to do so we must admit that we don’t know what it is. If we are afraid to ask questions because we may look dumb or incompetent, we become that which we fear. We cannot feel competent and confident in our ability because we have chosen to pretend that we are something we are not….something limited.
How can you discover that which has the potential to fill you if you pretend that you are already full?
You have chosen from meager offerings (the limited options you see before you – the ones you have already lived) and out of fear of being exposed as a poser you have fortified your position with mute defense.
You can’t unfold a flower with your hands…
Inspiration is the result of surrender to the natural flow of events. Fear of being discovered as not knowing blocks knowing.
Open yourself to what is possible. You always have that choice. Learn from the examples of the highest performers among us. No matter what their age, level of success or intelligence or station in life, they seek clarity in all things.
An elegant mind does not accept detours, because it is always arriving. It does not attempt to make the road shorter, but travels in such a manner that every action leaves the land more fertile and the landscape more beautiful.
Seeking clarity is a lifetime pursuit because each situation is always new. You and I have never lived this day…in this way…before.
With this in mind, we are always arriving.