Return Is Not A Concern

Do not believe what you have heard.

Do not believe in tradition because it is handed down many generations.

Do not believe in anything that has been spoken of many times.

Do not believe because the written statements come from some old sage.

Do not believe in conjecture.

Do not believe in authority or teachers or elders.

But after careful observations and analysis, when it agrees with reason and it will benefit one and all, then accept it and live by it.

– Buddha

The first time I read this quote I cried with relief.  Finally, something made sense . . . and in an instant I felt less alone.  There were others out there like me.

It is not easy to choose our own path.  Unless we actually examine the genesis of our thoughts we cannot discover if they are our own truths or the truths that have been handed to us . . . ideas and concepts, roles and rituals that we have accepted as our own.

Respect. . . I believe that respect, like the love from which it blossoms, must first be nurtured and grown within oneself before we can offer it to others.  I cannot give away that which is not mine to give.  For me, this means that I must value myself and the quality of my thoughts, my personal autonomy with regards to truth, more than I value the truths of others.  And respect the autonomy of others more than I value my interpretation of truth by offering it without expectation of return.

Truth Is regardless of my perception of it

Love is always simply love, regardless of the myriad forms in which it manifests.  It is we who confuse love when we taint it with fear of its loss.  It, however, remains constant.  Its expansive nature extends itself by limitless sharing.  Expanding on this thought, would I actually be offering love if I placed any limits on it?

It has been my experience that the folks who live from as close to absolute truth as humanly possible do not feel the compulsion to state it as such.  They are living examples of It, so in tune with their essence that its’ fragrance attracts every person that they encounter.  They offer it free of charge . . . and expect nothing in return.  Return is not a concern as they are too focused on what they wish to extend to be concerned by what is reflected back.   They are in love with the way the light plays off of all that they see.

I have found that when I hear someone state emphatically that I must stand here in this building, say this, place this colour on this table for this ceremony, bow in this direction, burn this .  . . agree .  . . I intuitively offer back non-resistance and move away.  I intuitively know it is not for me.

By trial and error I have discovered what is true for me . . . what resonates with me and opens me up to inspiration.  What feels most natural and joyful to share.  It seemed to take me a long time, but in reality, it was merely a changing of my mind.  And I realize that this, too, is ever changing, as I grow into the fullness of myself.  It is only my version of the truth.  And that is as it should be.  I am grateful to know that I do not know what I do not know . . . and that what I now know is definitely not it.

In the name of limitless love, I would offer as my truth . . . do not follow blindly on someone else’s path, allowing them to lead you.  Open your eyes and discover your own.

I will end with some excerpts from a talk given by J. Krishnamurti, an example to me of what it means to offer thoughts but not to be concerned with their return . . .  (link to its entirety at the end of this post)

So, what is the origin of all this? If you say ‘god’, then it’s finished; then you can trot along quite happily because you’ve solved the problem. But if you begin to question, doubt, as one should, all gods, all gurus – I don’t belong to that tribe – if you begin to question all that man has put together through a long evolution of two million years from the beginning of the Sumerians, and so on, the Hebrews, ancient Egyptians, down the corridors of history, they’ve always asked this question: what is the beginning? What is the origin? How has all this come about? I hope you’re asking that question. Don’t just listen to me, to the speaker with wide eyes, or with narrow eyes, or whatever eyes you have, but share in it, tear it to pieces. Don’t, please accept anything he says. He’s not your guru, thank god. He is not your leader. He is not your helper. Right? So, that is the platform, that is the beginning of this talk. . . .

 . . . Creation is something that is most holy; that’s the most sacred thing in life and if you have made a mess of your life, change it. Change it today, not tomorrow. If you are uncertain, find out why and be certain. If your thinking is not straight, think straightly, logically. Unless all that is prepared, all that is settled, you can’t enter into this world, into the world of creation. It ends.



Published by Paula D. Tozer

I am a writer, poet and singer/songwriter. I am a Toastmaster, motivational speaker, personal creativity coach, and workshop leader. My most sincere wish is to share my words with others, and that we both benefit from the exchange.

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